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Contrary to the title, this is not a music review for the 1999 album by the Bloodhound Gang. Sorry fellow music enthusiasts. 

Now that I have your attention, this week, we’re talking about the breast cancer awareness meme popular on facebook every October. The confusing one where women used to post a random fruit, or cryptic phrases like “I like to do it on the garage floor”. Yeah, those ones. The attempt at cyberactivism, like several other attempts (see: ALS ice bucket challenge), doesn’t quite reach the level of activism and donations it should. 

According to the textbook, “Humans want to do the right thing, and if the call is to simply ask you to push a button to “like” a status, we don’t mind obliging”. The accuracy of this statement really hits home in the cyber age where most things online we can get done with the push of a button.

So let’s dissect it and see what makes it so successful and where it tends to fall short. 

Why so Viral? 

There are several reasons why memes like the breast cancer meme (and so many others over the years) go viral. The secret is in the subtlety and vagueness of its nature. It’s the same idea as if someone posts something like “Nothing lasts forever”. We, as humans, are curious about what the message could possibly be about and depending on how interested we are, could fall down the rabbit hole of “deep research” into that person’s profile. 

The viral breast cancer meme brings up the same idea. A vague post where it brings users deeper into “What could it mean?” and more importantly: “What important social media trend am I missing?” 

So the viral urge is there, and the call for cyberactivism has spread quickly every October when the mysterious posts begin showing up. Everyone engages with or posts their own version. No matter the format, whether it’s which fruit corresponds with your breast size, where you put your purse, or the color of your bra. Every year, the meme seems to go viral. 

But that doesn’t mean that the cyberactivism is working. 

Where does it fall short?

There are several places where the meme falls short. 

The first and most glaring is the vagueness of the post. If you aren’t fortunate enough to be included by one of your facebook friends in the message detailing the trend, you as a user have no idea what’s going on.

If you’re not the gender that gets breast cancer, then you are even more out of the loop. That’s the first place where the meme falls short. It leaves out more users than it includes, and because it’s so vague, it doesn’t include a call to action. Therefore, people think they’re engaging in cyberactivism by simply clicking the like button, but are really not. 

Another place where the meme falls short is not including men. By only including women, and turning the meme into something sexual, especially with the “where you put your purse” addition a few years ago and the phrasing of “I like it behind the couch”etc, the meme misses the other half of the people who can be affected by breast cancer. 

Yes, men can get breast cancer too! By not including men, and opening the conversation to men, it’s like erasing the fact that men can also get breast cancer (and are not routinely screened, which is another issue entirely). 

While the meme is doing it’s best to build activism and help bring awareness to breast cancer, it tragically falls short. 

So where does that leave us?

How to Truly Increase Awareness

The breast cancer meme is a good start. Posting a fruit, or where you put your purse, or the length of your hair, or the color of your bra is a helpful start. It’s a conversation starter and builds interest. However, to build more engagement and actually engage in cyberactivism, there needs to be more. Including more ways to include men. 

Sure, the inital post can be vague. Post a fruit name or a color. But then, do more. Add a post after with a call to action. “Hey, if you liked this post, it was for breast cancer! You can donate to the cause, and learn more at (Insert link here).” That would truly build awareness and hopefully increase donations. 

So Now What?

As we reach the end of September and the beginning of October, by all means, post the memes, but also consider donating in other ways. Build awareness on social media, donate to breast cancer awareness, ThinkPink or whatever, donate to Susan G. Komen (Which has its own issues which we can explore another day). 

As for today? Go to Breastcancer.org and make sure your donation for breast cancer is going somewhere worthy. 

On Accountability

I have wanted to be a successful writer since I was about fourteen. Throughout my teens and 20’s, I was doing pretty well, or at least putting words down on the page and practicing my craft. Then came the disastrous year of 2024.

2024 and 2025 have been challenges for writing time and other things not related to writing time. In 2023, I wrote something every single day and finished multiple projects. It was the best writing year I’ve ever had as far as routine and ritual.

I had a routine and a plan, then 2024 happened.

2024

I had a lot of loss in 2024, with 10 people of varying closeness passing away at different times throughout the year, health issues and a car accident (everyone was fine, thankfully!). Starting medication for my mental health, which really made my ADHD tendencies go full blown off the deep end, and which meant starting medication for ADHD as well.

Perfect time to start the MFA, right?

2025

2025 was supposed to be my “year of writing” and getting back into routines I’d previously had. I had a schedule and everything. But that wasn’t quite the case either. 2025 has brought all new challenges to the playing field, like choosing to start a family and multiple health issues with my husband. Financial issues and pretty much every stressful thing that could happen has happened.

Now

So, how have I been protecting my writing lately, not very well at all. Some days are better than others. Sometimes, I get caught in the wrong ADHD tornado of obstacles and spend hours doing anything but writing. Other times, my motivation is lower than low because yay, being a female of childbearing age and  fun hormones. Other days, the writing bug bites (of course on the days where I’m busy and don’t have a lot of time to sit down and flesh out ideas), and I’ll at least get a few ideas down.

Thankfully, after some med adjustments and finally some recovery on my husband’s part (two surgeries in a month? Yes! Now, finally recovering in August). It’s taken some time, but I have taken inventory of when I have time (and when I waste time-AKA a lot) and I’m attempting to build a better schedule and have more incentive to stick to it.

Moving Forward

To overcome wasting a lot of time on my phone, I now have app limits. No more doomscrolling for 3 hours lost in time while I work in what should be an “on call” position, but where I have to be on-site. Now, I have to actively click “15 more minutes” and feel the shame of already using up my time in a non-productive way. Now, I plan to set a timer and “pay” for those extra 15 minutes with 15 minutes (or more) of writing.

In the future, I plan on working on my creative works and writing more in the morning as a first thing kind of mentality. It doesn’t always work, especially on weekends when I get to spend time with my husband, but it’s at least a step in the right direction. Timers have also been a big help in the past, so I will most likely use them again, either for writing time or as a countdown warning to writing.

A big part of it is making writing a priority again. During 2024, when I was basically drowning in an ocean of grief, writing wasn’t a priority. I continued to avoid responsibility once things began to get better in 2025. My goal is to make writing and creating and art more of my routine again instead of constantly being distracted by the next shiny thing.

After all, I can’t avoid being a writer forever. Especially with the plans I have for the rest of this year.